A Twelve Step Plan Towards Moving in The Direction of Your Own Destiny...

Act on the world before the world acts on you!

1. Contact your inner self, your inner soul, your inner talents, your genetic and psychological template for your outer direction;

2. Envision where you want to be in 5 years, what you want to be doing;

3. How do you get there? Focus, concretize, prioritize!

4. Match your concrete focus, priorities, skills, needs, goals, and action plans...

5. With what you need to get you where you want to be in 5 years;

6. Don't accept 'no' for an answer, don't deviate from your gameplan except as your inner self and your 'matching gameplan' dictate your direction;

7. As I just heard one 'informercial guru' put it, and I am partly paraphrasing and extrapolating, stop making excuses, don't accept excuses, become the master of your own fate...ruled from your internal self-template...not part of the 95 percent 'walking dead' who have let themselves become ruled from the outside by the 'masters of someone else's partially hidden agenda, someone else's corporate template', especially those who would like nothing better than to exploit you, imprison you, keep you down in the mud, in the interest of greatly 'speeding up' their own trip to 'financial freedom'...

8. Beware the users, the exploiters, the manipulators, the 'sweet talkers with a hook', the compassionless...

9. Work for, and/or alongside, the humanists who want just as much to see you do well, and others do well, as they want to do well themselves...

10. Act now and act on the world before the world acts on you, and before the users, the exploiters, the manipulators, and the compassionless are standing in front of you, and looking at you with dollar signs in their eyes, ready to grab the negotiating advantage of you lacking direction, lacking firmness and substance, and lacking the money to say anything but, 'Make me your corporate slave because I don't know how to, or am afraid to, run my own ship, and control my own destiny.'

I realize that I have bi-polarized the corporate-government world into two opposing sets of players -- the 'companionless narcissists' (or the 'big, bad wolves' if you wish) vs. the 'humanistic-existentialists' (the people who actually want to see you do well), but life is both 'multi-bi-polar' -- opposites engaging and/or disengaging with each other -- and life is also 'multi-valued' as opposed to 'two-valued'.

In other words, there are a whole spectrum of people, animals, things, processes, characteristics, values, ideas, opinions, beliefs...that exist somewhere along the spectrum of 'narcissistic' vs. 'humanistic' (or 'altruistic'), just as the same 'spectrum principle' and 'multi-valued' principle can be applied to 'good' vs. 'evil', 'Apollonian' vs. 'Dionysian', 'rational' vs. 'irrational', 'Enlightenment' vs. 'Romantic', 'humanistic' (socially empathic) vs. 'existential' (self-assertive), 'constructive' vs. 'deconstructive', 'righteous' vs. 'rebellious', 'sadistic' vs. 'masochistic', 'dominant' vs. 'submissive'... and on and on we could/can go...til the end of time...

There are extremes and then there are 'moderations' or 'integrations' or 'syntheses' or 'synergies' or 'compromises' between these endless bi-polar extremes...

11. Stay close to your Self, and stay close to your humanistic-existential-ethical core -- with tolerance and respect for those who may think differently, feel differently, behave differently, than you, but who still have good motivations in their hearts...

12. Don't deviate -- away from your Self, away from your Dream, away from your Plan, and at the same time, away from your compassion and caring for others!

-- dgb, Dec. 22nd, 2010,

-- David Gordon Bain,

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